28: On Self-Trust and Defining Possible
Let’s build our own version of ideal.
Where does our lack of self-trust come from?
Self-trust is often bound to outer validation. Choosing to build different habits than the people around us often leads to irritation, critique, unsolicited comments, and in general, a feeling of uncertainty. Stopping to drink alcohol, for example, or stepping away from eating meat are known to potentially cause friction with friends, colleagues or family members. But does that automatically have to mean that we’re making the wrong decision?
We can adapt this to every other “unconventional” decision we might want to make but are unsure about. Sometimes, choosing a path that feels 100% right for us will be met with negativity, but that alone doesn’t mean we’re on to make a mistake. We’re likely just building our own version of “ideal”.
What happens if we exclusively stick to what we already know?
We repeat mistakes. Collectively and individually.
Every type of societal dynamic has already existed long enough for us to know what to expect if we continue to reproduce it. We could draw so much knowledge from history, whether it’s our personal or collective one. Taking a look at the past lets us predict parts of the future – if we choose to stay on the same course, that is.
Wanting something we don’t yet own naturally requires an adaption of our actions. We need to make different decisions to achieve a different outcome.
“Possible” isn’t limited to “common”, “predefined” or “familiar”.
If that was the case, we would never see innovation. Innovation isn’t limited to technology, we can adapt it to ourselves, too. By rethinking patterns we’re used to follow, we have a good chance to find the source of our missing self-trust.
Self-trust can be our greatest source of strength while walking paths we’re the first ones in our family to do so. In moments where no one can hand us the answer on a silver platter, we need to rely on our own judgment and intuition. It’s perfectly okay not to know for certain sometimes, I mean, how should we? It’s our first time living, too. But as long as we keep trying, we’ll eventually figure it out.
Carry-On:
What comes up when you think about your own version of “ideal”?
And do you trust yourself enough to build it?
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